Expectations from erotic community vary
There is an alluring illusion that membership on
an adult dating site may bring you as much easy erotic encounters
as you want with minimum efforts from your side. Of course, erotic
community might be a better place to pick someone up rather than a
local bar or club. However general pick-up rules apply to adult dating,
erotic swing online as well. Even in an online erotic community UK and worldwide everyone
has to make efforts so others like him/her and pay attention to the personís profile.
Some men come to such sites expecting women members to say "yes"
at their first demand. Remember, that men profiles on adult dating sites
significantly outnumber women. So the competition among male personals here is pretty high.
A common complaint of adult dating sites members is that they are often
being contacted by so called "one liners" or personals provided extremely little information
in their profiles. Our erotic community struggles with such brevity. We have set a limit of
characters any profile must have to be registered. This has been done both for the sake
of your and the whole community because, believe me, a profile simply saying
"Hello! Iím seeking females for no string fun" will not generate much interest.
Provide other members with as much details as possible. Many of them (though not everyone)
consider a nice personality as much important as a sexy body.
Often people, especially women but men as well, look
not only for a sex partner but for a person they will feel comfortable
talking to. "This isn't about calling central casting and ordering a person of specific
dimension, I don't date a resume and standards do not make a person lovable." Ė
says one of our male members in his profile Ė "It is more about finding a playful
partner for whom my attraction is not only physical but also emotional, spiritual
and intellectual as well. The woman of my dreams (after all Iím still a romantic
or I wouldnít be doing this) would have a sense of balance and harmony in the
things she does and values."
Be prepared that you will receive a bunch of emails from people
who donít match all your requirements. Probably, itís not so bad after all.
Who knows, you may want to make an exception for someone among non-matches.
If there is too much "spam" in your mailbox, look for such options as
"I want to receive messages only from [the type of members you prefer]"
and make sure it is turned on. If you strongly object receiving messages
from certain individuals contact site administrators with your problem and
there are extremely high chances that the issue will be resolved. We tried to
solve this problem in our erotic community. There are two main folders in members
local mail boxes: matches (emails from personals matching the members requirement)
and non-matches (where come emails from the members not matching the requirements but